I noticed a good portion of family and friends spending their 20s and 30s focused on their careers and putting off marriage and children.Yet, as they approached 40, especially in the case of female friends, there came an enormous amount of pressure for finding a partner, often resulting in rushed marriages ending in divorce. It was even more disheartening when a child was introduced because now that child would often have to be raised in an environment of friction where mommy and daddy did not get along. I felt there had to be another viable option that could protect against these problems. Hence, co-parenting.
The main difference is the other person is involved with the raising of your child. We feel that co-parenting provides more support to the child because it involves two parents that are physically, financially, and emotionally committed. Healthy, happy, and balanced children are what we are trying to achieve and statistically, having both a mother and father within a child’s life dramatically improves chances for a happy and balanced upbringing. Also, donor conceived children sometimes develop health problems related to their father’s genetic makeup, for example they pass down the genes which may make them more susceptible to certain diseases such as diabetes or cancer. Knowing this information can help with diagnosis and even preventative treatment. Therefore knowing the identity of a donor has many benefits for the child, through to when they become adults.
The fundamental concept behind Modamily is that we provide a network where members can meet other like-minded people who dream of becoming a parent. There are many ways to become a co-parent, and what Modamily does is help our members find someone that wants to raise a child in a similar fashion as they do. Modamily simply matches up the parents based on their desires and they decide how best to proceed from there.
The desire to become a parent is why single men and women use Modamily, but there is nothing preventing the development of a relationship. Our primary goal is to create a community for great potential parents that removes the stress and pressures associated with feeling that in order to be a parent one must find a spouse first.
A niche social network like Modamily will definitely help increase the odds of finding someone in a shorter period of time. Everyone joins for the same purpose: to become a parent. Because people are staying single longer and waiting to get married, sites like Modamily can fill the void by helping those that still want to fulfill dreams of having a child. There’s plenty of time to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, but only a limited time to find Mommy or Daddy Right.
I used to be very uncomfortable with the idea of going on a dating site to meet women. When I moved back to New York, I found that many of my friends had met their significant others on sites like Match.com, eHarmony, jdate, or OkCupid and some even got married and had kids. These people weren’t weirdos or had three heads, like I pictured. Rather, they were just regular people like me looking for that connection. However, I also felt that there was a sub-set of people that were frustrated with these sites because they weren’t meeting their needs. I felt that if I could put together a site where everyone is there for the sole purpose of having a child with a partner, it would be possible to form a like-minded community to fill that need. Our goal is that by the end of the year, there will be some babies coming into the world from people that met through Modamily.
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