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How do I make my picture the primary profile picture?

When you are viewing your profile, click on the 'Photo' tab. Click on the pencil icon for the picture you want to make your primary picture, and then click make 'profile picture' and you're done!

How will you help me find someone?

Modamily helps you find a co-parenting partner in several ways. We ask that you fill out your profile as completely as possible. This helps others know more about who you are and what type of person and arrangement you are looking for.

The quiz is broken down into lifestyle, character, and parenting style categories. The more questions you answer in our quiz, the more accurate a picture you will give other candidates as to your character, lifestyle, and vision for how you'd like to raise your child. The percentage reflects how like-minded you are to a particular candidate.

The Inner Circle field, let's you share with others who the most important people are in your life and consequently your child's life.

Our Video Intro gives members the option to upload an introductory video so other members can get an idea as to what they are like beyond the page. Seeing how someone carries themselves and how they speak is important right?

So is this a sperm donor site?

Not exactly. Peole who join Modamily are looking for someone that wants to be INVOLVED in the raising of your child. Our platform is designed to give you a clear picture of who this person is, what values are important to them, and what they are looking for in a co-parent.

Is registering on the site free?

Yes, you can register on site absolutelly FREE!!! Search around, build your profile, learn more about co-parenting partnerships, and more for free, and like most comprable sites, if you want to send/read messages or join the Personal Concierge Service, you pay a subscription fee.

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What happens when I agree to meet up with a person, and they are not exactly what I hoped for?

Of course, just like any site, we recommend you do some due diligence if you're planning taking further steps with someone. We do give members the ability to show they are serious by authenticating some of their information such as their photos, height, eye color, income, education, and occupation. We also recommend that if you decide to enter into a co-parenting relationship with someone that you do it responsibly by seeing a family lawyer and drawing up a co-parenting agreement. We are building an information page that will contain other best practices and relevant information on co-parenting laws and fertility options to give you as much information as possible to help.

Is it just for single people who've never had a child?

It's for anyone interested in forming a modern family.  Straight/gay singles, LGBT couples, single moms/dads looking to have another child, traditionally married couples that can't have their own child, etc.

How do I upload a video?

On your profile page in the 'about me' tab, you'll see a pencil mark just below the tab to upload your video. Try not to make it a lengthy introduction, it's only meant to be around 15 seconds.

How do I upload pictures?

There is a 'Pictures' tab towards the right of your profile page.

Does Modamily arrange fertility treatment?

No, Modamily is not a fertility clinic; it is purely a connection service. Once you have found your parenting match, you personally arrange the insemination using a HFEA regulated fertility clinic. If you are co-parenting you may choose to use home insemination using an artificial insemination kit after arranging all necessary health screening tests.

Why was Modamily started?

I noticed a good portion of family and friends spending their 20s and 30s focused on their careers and putting off marriage and children.Yet, as they approached 40, especially in the case of female friends, there came an enormous amount of pressure for finding a partner, often resulting in rushed marriages ending in divorce. It was even more disheartening when a child was introduced because now that child would often have to be raised in an environment of friction where mommy and daddy did not get along. I felt there had to be another viable option that could protect against these problems. Hence, co-parenting.

What's the difference (pros/cons?) between turning to a sperm donor and finding a co-parent?

The main difference is the other person is involved with the raising of your child. We feel that co-parenting provides more support to the child because it involves two parents that are physically, financially, and emotionally committed. Healthy, happy, and balanced children are what we are trying to achieve and statistically, having both a mother and father within a child’s life dramatically improves chances for a happy and balanced upbringing. Also, donor conceived children sometimes develop health problems related to their father’s genetic makeup, for example they pass down the genes which may make them more susceptible to certain diseases such as diabetes or cancer. Knowing this information can help with diagnosis and even preventative treatment. Therefore knowing the identity of a donor has many benefits for the child, through to when they become adults. 

Is the idea that people who find each other on Modamily later hook up and actually have sex until the woman is pregnant - or through insemination?

The fundamental concept behind Modamily is that we provide a network where members can meet other like-minded people who dream of becoming a parent. There are many ways to become a co-parent, and what Modamily does is help our members find someone that wants to raise a child in a similar fashion as they do. Modamily simply matches up the parents based on their desires and they decide how best to proceed from there. 

If people find a good parent match on Modamily - why just have a baby together and not also start a relationship?

The desire to become a parent is why single men and women use Modamily, but there is nothing preventing the development of a relationship. Our primary goal is to create a community for great potential parents that removes the stress and pressures associated with feeling that in order to be a parent one must find a spouse first.

How do you think the fast track to parenthood, through a social forum online, will change the way families are formed in the future?

A niche social network like Modamily will definitely help increase the odds of finding someone in a shorter period of time. Everyone joins for the same purpose: to become a parent. Because people are staying single longer and waiting to get married, sites like Modamily can fill the void by helping those that still want to fulfill dreams of having a child. There’s plenty of time to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, but only a limited time to find Mommy or Daddy Right.

What has been the inspiration for Modamily (other websites or such?), and when do you think the first successful new family will be formed through Modamily?

I used to be very uncomfortable with the idea of going on a dating site to meet women. When I moved back to New York, I found that many of my friends had met their significant others on sites like, eHarmony, jdate, or OkCupid and some even got married and had kids. These people weren’t weirdos or had three heads, like I pictured. Rather, they were just regular people like me looking for that connection. However, I also felt that there was a sub-set of people that were frustrated with these sites because they weren’t meeting their needs. I felt that if I could put together a site where everyone is there for the sole purpose of having a child with a partner, it would be possible to form a like-minded community to fill that need. Our goal is that by the end of the year, there will be some babies coming into the world from people that met through Modamily.

Who are Modamily's clients?
  • Single men and women, gay or straight, wanting to co-parent
  • Gay male couples wishing to find an egg donor for a surrogacy arrangement, or a known donor who will also be involved in the child's life
  • Lesbian couples looking for a sperm donor - this may be an anonymous or known sperm donor who could be part of their child's life
  • Men wishing to donate their sperm
  • Women wishing to donate their eggs
  • Women wishing to be surrogates
  • Men and Women looking for medical and legal information on how to become co-parents